Individual Therapy
David* was overwhelmed, insecure, and codependent.
He was suffocating… gasping for air… desperately searching for any reprieve. Everything felt overwhelming. Going through the motions of life felt like a chore!
Decision-making was a nightmare because, after all, “What will people think about me if I make the wrong decision?”
His spouse Sara* became the final “word” to ensure he didn’t do anything “stupid.” It was now at the point where David’s and Sara’s once “great” marriage started to become toxic.
Deciding to try therapy wasn’t easy.
The concept that he mattered as an individual was so foreign to him that he dragged Sara to come along for his first “individual” session.
How could he not? Deep inside, he knew that Sara was getting frustrated and feeling suffocated by him, but he begged her to come for just one session because this was “important.”
The thought of doing psychotherapy alone terrified him. He needed Sara there for moral support and reassurance.
Not only that, he heard numerous stories from his friends who tried therapy, but it didn’t seem like anything changed.
“Should I risk becoming vulnerable with a stranger only to have it backfire on me by not getting the results I so desperately need?”
David felt like he couldn’t live like this anymore. Something drastic needed to happen. So, he reached out for support.
We spent a year together.
During our time together, we got to the root of his insecurities. “Spending significant time in the psych ward because of three teenage suicide attempts can do that to you,” he said.
We worked on his self-esteem, helping him realize that he was enough – just as he was. As our work concluded, David told me, “I now know I have the power to value what I think of MYSELF. Now, my motto is, ‘Be yourself!’”
He also learned how his mom’s overprotective nature shaped his need to seek security through codependent relationships. It angered him at first, but he understood that his mom’s behavior came from a place of love, care, and genuine concern.
David said, “Sara and I were able to create a secure and loving relationship with boundaries that we talked about and agreed upon.” He also said that he thought they had a great relationship until now because he never imagined a healthy, secure relationship could feel this good.
David now admits…
“Individual therapy was the best thing I could have done for myself. I’m no longer overwhelmed and see my capacity to do more. Sometimes, you must secure your mask first to do the same for others!”
I’ve helped countless others like David. I would love to help you, too.
I know it’s not easy to make the call, but something tells me you’re ready… and I know you can do it.
If David’s story strikes a chord and you’re ready to make a change, let’s talk about how we can get your life back on track during your free consultation: (848) 261-9876.
*The name and story are a composite narrative and do not reflect an actual client.